How To Seduce Girls By “Controlling The Frame”
Here is a question that guys commonly ask me for advice about: “How can you tell whether a girl likes you or not?”
I’ve been friends with expert seducers for as long as I can remember, and they’ve given me varied answers to this same question.
Since these guys were all absolutely amazing with women, I made sure to write down their answers.
One of the best ones I received was from my buddy Derek Rake who always manages to “close” a woman, no matter what the situation or the setbacks.
Derek said to me, “Go for the kiss. You’ll know she likes you if she kisses you back.”
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Of course, you know this can’t happen until you try it. Now the thing is, it’s not a bad advice at all. I was just clueless about the steps that lead UP to going for the first kiss (and getting it every time).
You see, I used to observe Derek in action. There is a trick he does BEFORE he goes for the kiss that makes the girl actually want to kiss HIM first.
He preps her up for the kiss so that he doesn’t have to work as hard to get it. It’s this guy’s prep work that made the difference.
In the world of seduction, this is known as “conditioning” a girl and it’s one of the most powerful psychological tactics you can utilize to make a girl find you massively attractive.
Before you worry about what to talk about with a girl, let me tell you the first thing you need to do…
Your first goal must be to set the stage for attraction, by putting up a frame for her to enter. In order to do this, you’ll got to adjust your OWN frame and make it as strong as possible. Let me discuss this in detail.
The awesome thing about “conditioning” a girl is that is ensures that she will go along with YOUR flow. When you do something to spark a girl’s attraction, you don’t have to ask if she likes you or not. You must always LEAD the interaction, and not look to her to lead you. This is one of the most common blunders that guys make.
The first step in strengthening your frame is assuming that she likes you. Believe that she’s into you, and keep that frame regardless. If you act and talk like a guy who KNOWS a girl likes her, she will soon be entering that mode herself without her noticing.
This is because your whole body language changes when you shift your mindset from doubting her attraction for you to knowing for sure that she’s into you.
Consider this. When a girl chases YOU, you’re going to act differently. You are naturally going to be more relaxed (assuming that you find her attractive, too) and you’re going to NOTICE the things she does to impress you and try to attract you.
If this is your mindset when you talk to a woman, you will notice how she’s moving closer, slapping your hand playfully and laughing a little more than usual.
You won’t notice these things if you don’t assume attraction on her part, because you would be too caught up wondering if she likes you or not.
When I talk to girls, I’ll often playfully accuse them of hitting on me. I’ll say “you’re totally hitting on me. You’re so bad.” And I’ll say it in a totally confident tone of voice. This makes them giggle, blush, slap my arm, etc…they love it.
The guys who can do this come off as cocky to someone else, but to the girls they talk to, they’re pretty funny.
This is what we call a “strong frame”, or one that puts a girl in the exact position you want her to be, and that is “she likes you and and you’re noticing.”
On the other hand, if you’re not aware of what’s going on, women will attempt to place you in either of THEIR frames — and when this happens, they lose respect for you and will not feel sexually attracted.
An example of this would be a girl saying to you, “Oh, so you like me? Buy me a drink and prove it.”
That’s just one example of the “mind tricks” that girls play on us. This is especially true with hot chicks at bars and clubs, who know they have lots of options. She’s making you feel like you need to EARN her approval, and you’ll need to shell out money in order to buy some of her time. Never take this bait. Instead, create and maintain a strong frame. Bring her into YOUR frame, not the other way around.
This is a pitfall you absolutely must avoid…
If you submit to her wishes, than you’re submitting yourself to her frame. As long as you stay stuck inside her frame, she stays in the power position.
This trick is powerful if you use it right. With practice, you can start doing this in a way that feels natural and effortless. This is when your game goes from “pretty good” to “totally unstoppable”.
The first time I saw this technique in action, I was awestruck. There are some guys who simply suck everyone around in their frame, making beta males out of every guy in the room, and attracting the best looking girls.
The other amazing thing about it was that the fact that he was using a “technique” was undetectable. If your frame is strong enough, she will just play the role that you have chosen for her.
To keep your frame strong, you’ve got to totally believe in it. Also, you need to stay alert and be able to think on your feet, because the girl you’re macking on (or another guy) could try to shatter your frame at any time.
If you’re persuasive enough, women will accept your frame and go inside your reality — and they’re going to enjoy every second.
What makes this tactic extra special is that not many men know it, and this automatically gets you ahead in the game of dating and seducing women if you master this technique.
Just imagine yourself possessing a whole “toolkit” with seduction techniques you can use in every possible situation…they will give you the powers to make any woman like you quickly and leave other men in the dust.
The good news is that Derek Rake’s techniques are already available, which you can check out here:
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This stuff is brutally effective, definitely controversial, and certainly not for “nice guys” who are afraid to get laid.
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