How To Master The Art Of Talking To Girls
Here is a question that guys commonly ask me for advice about: “How can you tell whether a girl likes you or not?”
I’ve hung out with many of the top”seducers” in the world, and all of them have given me different responses to this burning question.
Now, given that these guys are good with women, I took all their advice in and later wrote them down somewhere.
My good friend Derek Rake, the mastermind behind the “Deadly Seduction” system, gave an answer to that question that I will never forget.
Derek said to me, “Go for the kiss. If she kisses back, she likes you.”
Derek Rake actually has a fool-proof way to get the first kiss with a girl, which you can learn by clicking this link:
Deadly Seduction – Attract & “Close” Girls FAST
You won’t know if it works for you unless you give the technique a try. And Derek Rake’s advice is actually extremely solid. I was just clueless about the steps that lead UP to going for the first kiss (and getting it every time).
You see, I used to observe Derek in action. He does something before he goes for the kiss, which makes the woman actually want to kiss him more than he wants to kiss her.
He preps her up for the kiss so that he doesn’t have to work as hard to get it. He succeeds because of the groundwork he lays down.
In the world of seduction, this is known as “conditioning” a girl and it’s one of the most powerful psychological tactics you can utilize to make a girl find you massively attractive.
You will of course need to know what to talk about with girls, but before that, here’s what you need to do first…
Your first goal must be to set the stage for attraction, by putting up a frame for her to enter. In order to do this, you’ll got to adjust your OWN frame and make it as strong as possible. I will show you exactly how this works.
“Conditioning” puts you in a position of power, and this goes for you as well as the girl you want to date. You won’t need to wonder about whether she likes you or not, because she’ll be following your lead and open to your suggestions. It will be obvious that she’s interested in you, and where this interaction is heading. Make her go with your flow, and not the other way around.
To change your frame, assume that she already likes you. Believe that she’s into you, and keep that frame regardless. If you act and talk like a guy who KNOWS a girl likes her, she will soon be entering that mode herself without her noticing.
This is because your whole body language changes when you shift your mindset from doubting her attraction for you to knowing for sure that she’s into you.
Look at it this way. You act differently around a girl who’s chasing you. You’re more relaxed and eager to banter, because your assumption makes you receptive to the little things she puts out to show her attraction.
For example, you might notice body language cues. She might move closer to you, playfully slap your arm when you tease her, or laugh a bit more than normal.
But you probably won’t notice these little details if you aren’t ASSUMING attraction on her part. Why? Because you’re distracted. You’re busy thinking about whether she likes you.
When I talk to girls, I’ll often playfully accuse them of hitting on me. I’ll say “you’re totally hitting on me. You’re so bad.” And I’ll say it in a totally confident tone of voice. This makes them giggle, blush, slap my arm, etc…they love it.
The guys who can do this come off as cocky to someone else, but to the girls they talk to, they’re pretty funny.
This is what we call a “strong frame”, or one that puts a girl in the exact position you want her to be, and that is “she likes you and and you’re noticing.”
On the other hand, if you’re not aware of what’s going on, women will attempt to place you inider of THEIR frames — and when this happens, they lose respect for you and will not feel sexually attracted.
Think of the times when a girl tried to put you down by saying “Oh yeah? Buy me a drink and prove it.”
That’s just an example of how a girl plays this useful dating mind trick. She’s making you feel like you need to EARN her approval, and you’ll need to shell out money in order to buy some of her time. Never take this bait. Instead, create and maintain a strong frame. Bring her into YOUR frame, not the other way around.
Here’s a pitfall that you MUST avoid…
When you go along with the wishes of a girl you just met, you’re stepping into her frame and losing control. She gets to stay in a position of power if you let yourself get stuck inside that frame she puts you in.
This trick is powerful if you use it right. With practice, you can start doing this in a way that feels natural and effortless. This is when your game goes from “pretty good” to “totally unstoppable”.
The first time I saw this technique in action, I was awestruck. This guy was so good that when he created a frame, everyone around him stepped into it and wanted to feed off his energy. Not just the best-looking girls in the room, but also the guys nearby! They all wanted to be a part of his energy.
The amazing thing is that this is barely detectable. When the frame you create is rock-solid, girls will simply play the roles that you choose for them. You can “frame” a girl as a fun, open-minded party chick by telling her she has those qualities. Then, subconsciously she will want to live up to those qualities…and she’ll do things tonight with YOU that she wouldn’t normally do with a dude she just met.
It goes without saying that you have to be completely in it to keep your frame. Also, you need to stay alert and be able to think on your feet, because the girl you’re macking on (or another guy) could try to shatter your frame at any time.
If you’re persuasive enough, women will accept your frame and go inside your reality — and they’re going to enjoy every second.
Very few guys understand how to use this extraordinarily powerful method, and if you can learn it, you’re going to be way ahead of the game.
Just imagine yourself possesing a whole “toolkit” with seduction techniques you can use in every possible situation…they will give you the powers to make any woman like you quickly and leave other men in the dust.
Now here’s the great news. My buddy Derek Rake’s “underground” techniques are now available for you to check out:
This stuff is brutally effective, definitely controversial, and certainly not for “nice guys” who are afraid to get laid.
Check it out: