Are you the type of guy who just doesn’t know how to talk to a girl for the first time? Do you often panic not knowing what to say and end up getting rejected multiple times a night while picking up girls? Maybe it’s got nothing to do with your looks at all. With these tips you can gain confidence and find yourself talking to girls easily in no time.
First thing you do before approaching a girl is to convey social value. You do this by chatting up with people, always flashing a great smile, or if you’re with your friends be the one who talks and make the group laugh. Women will notice this and see that you are a good person to talk to so that when you do approach them you’ve already sparked up their interest. However this is not applicable for all situations, just in places where there are crowds and you have a lot of competition against picking up women. Building up your social value will definitely give you an edge.
Next tip for how to talk to a girl for the first time is to have a good opener or pickup line. It doesn’t even have to be incredibly smart or clever. It just has to be interesting enough to catch her attention then you can move on to the next topic. A great opener would be in a form of compliment because girls love being appreciated. You can tell her how good she looks with the dress she’s wearing and don’t worry about sounding gay because only guys think that way and you’re not there to pick up guys anyway.
Ask her a question that requires her to express her opinion and make the conversation rolling. Most guys make the mistake of asking questions that can only be answered by a yes or no. This usually ends up with the girl not knowing what to say next and just make the whole conversation awkward. By this time you may have already lost your chance and you have no one else to blame but yourself.
When you ask a question, be sure to have your own opinion about it. Do not just ask for the sake of it. That is why it’s important to pick your questions carefully so as to showcase your good qualities. For example you can share a situation where you can express your opinon about the importance of honesty in a relationship. This way she can get to know you better and decide if she wants to dig even deeper.
Now that you have overcome the nerve and learned a few tricks about talking to a girl, the most important thing is that you build a bond with her. It’s useless to have the best opener and discussion if you end the talk not having established a connection. Find similarities with the girl or things that you share in common so you can plan a following date or meetup. Then you won’t have to worry about knowing how to talk to a girl for the first time, for now.